新聞取自各大新聞媒體,新聞內容並不代表本網立場! 收件箱 : bangtai.us@gmail.com 死磕与磕死 来源: 汉代蜜瓜 于 2011-02-10 wenxuecity 在写作《罂粟》期间又发生北大女妻子涉嫌投毒杀死清华男丈夫的事件,不知道是不是冥冥之中的天意。 前清华毕业生,生前是华尔街 IT 人士的王小晔因为身体不适独自开车到医院就诊,被医生以流感医治一直没有好转。一个医院工作的护士认为他的症状跟多年前中国女孩朱令的铊中毒相似,随进行化验证明王小晔确实属于铊中毒。王小晔不治身亡。 经过新泽西州警方和美国联邦调查局人员深入调查后,于 9日正式起诉王的妻子李天乐(译音)。警方透露,李天乐在新泽西进行化学研究工作,并在近两个月数次向单位申请获取放射性金属铊。当局并没有公布她到底从单位获取多少这种有毒金属。 消息一传开,华人网站一时间热闹非凡,都在八卦这件事。据报纸报道,该夫妇之前已经在办离婚手续,手续就在王小晔死的那天生效。双方 2008 年在新泽西买房,生有一子,据说夫妻关系不好,曾因家暴数次招警,争吵之声连街对面的邻居都能听到。 这样的事发生,又令我唏嘘不已——这又是一例典型的夫妻不和不能好和好散死磕以致磕死的极端事例。令我不明白的事,这两口子都有稳定的工作,王男还在华尔街工作,应该收入高于女方,为什么两个人都办离婚了还非要住在一起吃在一起? 一般来说,西方法律对离婚是有分居要求的。西方人也都自觉遵守这条法律,不像中国人那样灵活变通——国人很多协议离婚,协议有成的时候可以对法庭说是同屋分居以求速速离婚。其实能这样也不错,至少双方都有尽快了断的意愿,一般来说,能这么尽快达成协议的,都是一方在财产上作出大幅度的让步以求换取对方尽快签字。 到目前为止,据我所知的,所作让步的都是女方。前几天刚听朋友说了个特例,是男方作出让步——国内财产归女方,国外的房子卖掉净值平分,男方付女方 5 年赡养费(婚龄 10 年),女方放弃孩子的监护权,也不付孩子的抚养费。 该例子是女方搬出去分居的,因为她不想要孩子,自己搬出去清静。 但是我知道的大部分的中国人离婚家庭,男人即使不要孩子,或者孩子根本不可能归他们的情况下也拒绝搬出去分居,要么指望女人搬出去,要么死守房子到最后一刻的 SETTLE ,总之多一分的钱也不肯花。 为了钱死磕!为了所谓的“公平”与“情理”而死磕! 要知道西方的惯例和共识,要离婚要搬出去是男人搬,不可能让女人带着孩子到处奔波的,直到最后的 SETTLE ,该卖房卖房,该分钱分钱。让女人搬的,都是极品中的极品了。 一个女友的老外女同事就嫁了个极品,但是她一分钟都不愿意跟这个极品待在一起了,所以自己搬了出来找律师离婚,直到最后卖了房子一人一半地 SETTLE 。 她是没孩子,有孩子应该是另外一种做法了。 如果王小晔从开始“闹”离婚的时候就搬出去分居,还会发生这样的悲剧吗? 我们再从另外一个角度说说“死磕”。 我写《我曾经是你的女人》的时候,写了作为大奶苏雪凝的种种不理智的行为(这里不谈小三百合的行为是否符合道德或者规范,只谈大奶),有读者说作为婚姻中受伤害的大奶,苏怎么做都不过分。现在网上有流言说王小晔是个花心大罗卜,有小三才要离婚的,我们假设这个流言是真的,也假设奶李天乐投毒成立,你能说她做的事不过分吗?法律会因此而免她的罪而不让她坐牢吗? 在网络上,曾经有几例大奶小三网上较量的事轰动一时,当然是激愤之下的大奶作出来的非理智事件,透露小三的私人信息,甚至把人家孩子的照片贴上网等等,当时为大奶喝彩的掌声如潮,大奶帮们纷纷连呼解气,我说大奶做事欠考虑不理智有失尊严,结果喝彩者纷纷表示,受伤害的大奶做什么都不过分,甚至于说蜜瓜同学是小三出身,所以才如此为小三说话。 今天发生这样的事,当年喝彩的人都到哪里去了?有没有人出头帮这位“做什么都不过分”的大奶凑凑天价的保释金(只要嫌犯不逃跑,保释金最后还会归还)?有没有人出面代表大奶团的大奶们去监狱探探监,帮她抚养两岁的幼儿? 恰好同一天,有个网友上来说,因为她来美后一直不肯改专业,坚持自己的专业,积极在一个公司做不拿薪水的义工和实习生,被老公辱骂成废物,永远不可能找到工作,并且跟她分居要求离婚,并控制她的金钱。她不得不跟国内的哥哥要了 1 万美金度过难关。她的努力终于有了结果,找到了专业工作,她老公又要求她看在孩子的面上复合。 就这样的婚姻,居然还有人说,你老公也没啥大毛病,就是贪财,要这位网友为了孩子忍,凑合。 她们真不怕下一次这位网友失业了再遭遇相同的待遇,忍出人命来? 这样的婚姻何必死磕? 离婚确实是一件很有压力的事。但是人生一世,所遭遇的失败和负面的事情很多,我们不仅仅要接受自己的成功,更要学会接受自己的失败。一个人不会永远成功,也不会永远失败,关键是要学会把失败的负面能量转换为正面能量,让自己的人生迅速地从负面能量里解脱出来,这才是积极的人生态度。 在一段垂死的婚姻里死磕,不肯承认或者接受自己的失败,也许你的人生就此沉迷,永远不能解脱。 最后的结果就是磕死,物理的或者精神的。
鉈殺案的一點常識︰鉈中毒以後有些什麼癥狀? 綜合新聞
全面解讀可怕的鉈中毒
鉈是一種稀有金屬元素,銀白色、質軟、高毒類、燃燒時能發出十分美麗的綠色光焰。鉈和鉈的氧化物都有毒,能使人的中樞神經系統、腸胃系統及腎髒等部位發生病變。人如果飲用了被鉈污染的水或吸入了含鉈化合物的粉塵,就會引起鉈中毒。
鉈中毒癥狀
鉈和鉈的化合物溶于水後無色無味,因此人一旦飲用後也不易察覺。一般鉈中毒後10到12個小時就會發病,也有的會延至兩三天後才出現癥狀。最初為胃腸道刺激癥狀,如惡心、嘔吐、食欲減退,腹絞痛或隱痛,也有牙齦糜爛及出血性胃炎等。中毒後2至5天出現雙下肢酸、麻、針刺感,下肢特別是足部會疼痛。運動障礙出現較晚,可發生視力減退、中毒性腦病。中毒1至3周左右會出現脫發。指甲和趾甲于第4周出現白色橫紋。
鉈中毒沒有特效藥物
鉈屬于被國家嚴格管制的化學物質,人們在生活中一般接觸不到,化學商店中也買不到。鉈中毒沒有特效藥物,較好的解毒方法是利用血液灌流、置換血漿等方法,將中毒者血中的鉈去除掉。
如何預防鉈中毒
接觸︰皮膚接觸會造成輕度鉈中毒,所以要盡量避免皮膚接觸。
飲食︰在生產鞭炮的原料中常含有高量的鉈,其副產品氯化鈉(非食用鹽)中同樣被污染,人食用後會引起中毒。
防護︰工作中若需要接觸鉈,其間禁止進食、吸煙,並戴防護口罩或防毒面具、手套,穿防護服;工作後要淋浴。
清華女生因“鉈”致殘
朱令曾是中國首位利用互聯網向全球尋求拯救的病人,11年前這個美麗的清華女生被鉈中毒拖向深淵。如今的她,100%傷殘、全身癱瘓、雙目近乎失明、大腦遲鈍、體重100公斤、基本語言能力喪失。
朱令曾是一個使人矚目的優秀女孩。1992年她考上清華化學系,學習成績突出。她多才多藝,自小學習鋼琴和古琴,並加入清華民樂隊成為主力隊員。出事前,朱令身體非常健康,她在運動場上的表現曾使具有田徑二級運動員水準的同學也自嘆不如。她還是游泳高手,曾在清華校運會上多次得到名次。
然而,離奇的中毒事件改變了一切。1994年底,朱令出現了奇怪的中毒癥狀︰秀發脫落、面肌癱瘓、發音含混、四肢無力,被送往醫院後,醫院束手無策。此時,朱令高中時的同學、北京大學力學系92級學生貝志誠和幾個同學將朱令的病癥翻譯成英文,通過互聯網向世界發信。他們收到了來自世界各地的1500多封回信,其中不少回信認為她是鉈鹽中毒,後經專家診斷證實。但是這次確診來得太晚,兩次發病後,昔日相貌秀美、聰慧可人的女孩已不在,嚴重的後遺癥使她全身癱瘓並幾次病危,雙眼近乎失明,面目表情呆滯,身材也變得臃腫不堪,智力也只能恢復到幾歲孩子的水平。現在朱令每日在父母的幫助下堅持做一些簡單運動,希望早日站起來。
然而,經過11年治療,朱家早已家徒四壁,捉襟見肘。每個月5000元左右的治療費對于這個依靠父母退休金來維持的家來說是一筆巨大的負擔。而年邁更讓朱令的父母擔憂女兒的將來。
“鉈”毒膠囊害農婦
2001年4月的一天,甘肅定西市劉文兵趁看病之機,將裝有鉈化合物的傷風膠囊賣給馬坪村二社的馬冬英。三四天後,馬冬英中毒,出現手腳麻木、頭發脫落的癥狀,被家人送往臨洮縣醫院救治。
護士遭遇“鉈”毒
杭州某醫院25歲的護士小周染上“怪病”︰全身發麻、疼痛,還不停地掉發,卻一直查不出患了何種疾病。這樣的折磨讓25歲的小周接近崩潰。2006年12月21日,小周的病因終于有了眉目,可能是鉈中毒。患者至今找不出毒從何來。
投毒者︰常某
1988年出生,中國礦業大學徐海學院機電系材料專業06(2)班學生,山東鄒城人。平時性格內向,不善交際,與同宿舍同學關系很僵,據稱有時候就連同宿舍同學說話聲音大點,也影響到了他的情緒。常某連這樣的小事情都處理不好。此外,常某家境很好,但學習成績卻不太好,去年就有兩門次不及格,本學期又有科目不及格。
中毒者︰
牛某、李某、石某
均為中國礦業大學徐海學院機電系材料專業06(2)班學生,牛某是河北石家莊人,石某是徐州銅山人、李某是山東臨沂人。中毒發生後,據尿檢發現,石某尿鉈高達7000多ug/L(正常值為5),超標1000多倍。而李某尿鉈高達5000多ug/L。牛某已出現脫發現象。
王曉曄治療過程細節曝光 網友質疑︰ 為何朱令都保住了命 nj.com MONROE — Dressed in green jail garb and with her hands cuffed in front of her, 40-year-old chemist Tianle Li stood before a judge in New Brunswick on Wednesday and listened with quiet composure as she was charged with murdering her husband by dosing him with a rare lethal drug.
Li’s lawyer, Steven Altman, entered a plea of not guilty, and a few minutes later, the hearing was over.
But while the legal part of this story was sorting itself out, startling details were emerging about a frantic, heroic attempt by doctors, scientists, and federal and state agencies to save the dying husband as he lay in a hospital, slipping away from thallium poisoning.
The scramble to save 39-year-old Xiaoye Wang began around 9 p.m. on Jan. 25, when Steven Marcus, the medical and executive director of New Jersey Poison Control, received a call from University Medical Center in Princeton. A doctor was on the other end of the line telling him about Wang and that thallium had been discovered in his system.
Marcus couldn’t believe what he was hearing. This was only the second time in his 43-year medical career that he’d come across a case of thallium poisoning. The physician at the Princeton hospital knew little about the deadly chemical and even less about how to treat it.
"It’s either attempted suicide," Marcus told the doctor, "or homicide."
There was silence on the other end of the phone, Marcus said.
Then he told the physician there was only one way to save Wang’s life — an antidote called Prussian Blue — and only one company in the United States manufactured it.
Thallium is tasteless and odorless and was used in rat poisoning and insecticides until it was banned in the United States in the 1980s because of its toxicity. It is still used in small doses in glass-making, mirror circuits and certain medical tests.
Marcus, who says his nickname is "House," a reference to the television character because he’s often called about perplexing medical cases, said his first thought was to contact everyone he could think of who might be able to help.
One of the first he reached out to was a former colleague at the U.S. Department of Energy’s Oak Ridge National Laboratory in Tennessee. Marcus had taken a course there 10 or 15 years earlier and remembered asking at the time if the lab kept antidotes on hand for thallium.
A year or so prior to that he had been contacted by doctors treating a New Jersey schoolteacher for thallium poisoning. The woman eventually recovered and no one was ever arrested, but the unusual case had stayed with him.
At 5 a.m. on Jan. 26, as scientists at Oak Ridge tried to figure out how to get Prussian Blue to New Jersey in the middle of a snowstorm, Marcus shoveled his driveway in North Jersey, then headed to Princeton, continuing to make calls the entire way — to the state Health Department, to New York City poison control, to anyone who might have Prussian Blue in stock and was closer than Tennessee.
No one did, but Christopher Rinn, the assistant commissioner of New Jersey’s Department of Health and Senior Services, told Marcus the agency was at his disposal.
"He said, ‘Whatever you need. Let’s cut through this bureaucracy,’" Marcus recalled.
By this time, however, Wang was unconscious. He had come to the hospital in Princeton on his own on Jan. 14, the same day he and Li were due in court to finalize their divorce, said Middlesex County Assistant Prosecutor Nicholas Sewitch, who confirmed after Li’s arraignment Wednesday that Wang was administered a "lethal, massive" dose of thallium.
A neighbor living near the couple’s home in Monroe Township, who identified herself only by her last name, Patel, said the two were "not friendly. We didn’t talk ... We knew they were having problems. We saw the cops there all the time."
Sewitch was unable to say how the thallium was administered or whether it was given in several small doses over time, or in one dose. All he would confirm is that the drug was ingested in December or January. He also would not comment on where Li allegedly obtained the thallium, but did say it would have been available to her at Bristol-Myers Squibb in Lawrenceville, where she’s worked since 2001 as a research chemist.
When Wang first arrived at the hospital on Jan. 14, Wang was experiencing "flu-like" symptoms, Sewitch said.
Thallium poisoning typically includes loss of hair, thickened skin, severe gastrointestinal pain and loss of feeling in the extremities. Wang didn’t present many of those symptoms until a few days after his arrival, Marcus said.
At that point a nurse recalled cases of thallium poisoning in China in the 1990s and suggested Wang’s urine be tested, Sewitch said. No lab in New Jersey was capable of performing the test, so Wang’s urine sample was sent out of state.
Twenty-four hours later, the diagnosis of thallium poisoning was confirmed and Marcus was notified.
"If someone at the hospital had not guessed it might be thallium and tested for it, it might have gone undetected," Marcus said.
With time running out, Marcus suggested to a pharmacist at the Princeton hospital that she contact chemical supply companies in the area to try and obtain a less pure dose of Prussian Blue, which is also used to dye clothes as well as microscopic specimens in biological research.
A dose of the non-medical grade was found in a matter of hours and rushed to Princeton the medical center, but Marcus and the other doctors realized they had no idea how much of it to administer.
Still traveling through snow and ice, Marcus suggested diluting the bright blue powder in water and simply doubling the recommended dose.
Nearly two hours after leaving his home, Marcus arrived in Princeton. The non-medical grade Prussian Blue had been administered through a gastric tube, but Wang had showed no response.
In the meantime, Marcus had contacted a federal facility near Albany, N.Y., that had the purer form of the antidote, and an SUV was dispatched to Princeton. When it finally arrived five hours later, Wang was near death.
The antidote would be useless. Marcus, along with a number of doctors and nurses, stood beside Wang’s bed, unable to do anything more.
Sometime around 3 p.m. on Jan. 26, as several detectives stood nearby, Wang’s heart monitor flatlined.
"There was remarkable cooperation between the hospital, poison control, the police, the state health department, the Centers for Disease Control and the nuclear energy department in Tennessee — all to get this antidote to the hospital in snow in a matter of a few hours," Marcus said. "Unfortunately it was too late."
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